Emotional Healing
No two states of mind or emotion can co-exist in exactly the
same time and space. If you are happy and joyful you are not sad
or mistrustful. One is fundamentally love based and the other
fear based. Many experiences can affect our feelings, beliefs
and interpretations of the world, some of them current and some
of them from the past.
The following diagram shows a representation of the
correspondence between emotions, thoughts, behaviour and
spiritual congruence.
Anyone can travel around the wheel in either direction and will
eventually come to either a critical point in their life experience or an
emptiness necessitating re-evaluation. You can be completely
balanced and "whole" and still find that there is something missing
from your experience, or you can come to a stage where you have
accepted that life is just not working for you (despite the actions
and things you have) and that you aren't happy with how you feel
inside.
Either way, this point of questioning signals a 'readiness" for
change assistance and opens the door to an expanded focus or to
renewal of spirit.
same time and space. If you are happy and joyful you are not sad
or mistrustful. One is fundamentally love based and the other
fear based. Many experiences can affect our feelings, beliefs
and interpretations of the world, some of them current and some
of them from the past.
The following diagram shows a representation of the
correspondence between emotions, thoughts, behaviour and
spiritual congruence.
Anyone can travel around the wheel in either direction and will
eventually come to either a critical point in their life experience or an
emptiness necessitating re-evaluation. You can be completely
balanced and "whole" and still find that there is something missing
from your experience, or you can come to a stage where you have
accepted that life is just not working for you (despite the actions
and things you have) and that you aren't happy with how you feel
inside.
Either way, this point of questioning signals a 'readiness" for
change assistance and opens the door to an expanded focus or to
renewal of spirit.
"Suffering is the distance
between you and your peace".
M. R. Monteiro
between you and your peace".
M. R. Monteiro
Life dissatisfaction, worry, depression,
conflict are all clues that some inner
personal work or change needs to happen.
Layers of masks and defenses stand
between us and our authentic self, created by
the psyche as a "protection" from further pain,
hurt, guilt and shame.
The psyche can bury pain so deeply that the
sub-conscious then projects it outwardly onto
others in order to gain our attention that
something needs processing and release
(crucial to emotional and mental health).
conflict are all clues that some inner
personal work or change needs to happen.
Layers of masks and defenses stand
between us and our authentic self, created by
the psyche as a "protection" from further pain,
hurt, guilt and shame.
The psyche can bury pain so deeply that the
sub-conscious then projects it outwardly onto
others in order to gain our attention that
something needs processing and release
(crucial to emotional and mental health).
On-Line Self
Assessment
Questionnaires:
Assessment
Questionnaires:
"Where science, psychology and spirituality meet in a way
that makes a difference to your reality."
that makes a difference to your reality."
This is not a diagnostic model nor a static
categorization of an individual's state or status. It
is my representation of feeling, mind, behaviour
states and spiritual congruence.
People can be anywhere on the wheel, relative to
different circumstances in their lives and will
move through the wheel as they gain new
awareness and appreciation of meaning that
helps modify their thinking, feelings, behaviours
and experiences.
categorization of an individual's state or status. It
is my representation of feeling, mind, behaviour
states and spiritual congruence.
People can be anywhere on the wheel, relative to
different circumstances in their lives and will
move through the wheel as they gain new
awareness and appreciation of meaning that
helps modify their thinking, feelings, behaviours
and experiences.
If you have experienced a traumatic event, or have been emotional or mentally traumatized, then
often what is required is a re-assessment of the impact this has had on your feelings, thinking and
beliefs about yourself, others, and how the world works.
As we make meaning from our life experiences, when confronted with highly negative or traumatic
experiences, our assumptions change and these do often lead to a number of changes in our our
expectations, which will frame how we feeling and behave.
Recovering from the "hidden traumas" requires meaning reconstruction to provide some
understanding of what happened, contextualized in terms of life meaning and spiritual significance.
This involves development of a significant and safe relationship with a "safe" other and development
of Self and Spiritual trust in relation to oneself and to others. Finally an acceptance that not
everything can or will fall apart at any minute but that change happens naturally because life is about
change.
often what is required is a re-assessment of the impact this has had on your feelings, thinking and
beliefs about yourself, others, and how the world works.
As we make meaning from our life experiences, when confronted with highly negative or traumatic
experiences, our assumptions change and these do often lead to a number of changes in our our
expectations, which will frame how we feeling and behave.
Recovering from the "hidden traumas" requires meaning reconstruction to provide some
understanding of what happened, contextualized in terms of life meaning and spiritual significance.
This involves development of a significant and safe relationship with a "safe" other and development
of Self and Spiritual trust in relation to oneself and to others. Finally an acceptance that not
everything can or will fall apart at any minute but that change happens naturally because life is about
change.
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